Dear My Autism Child

I know sometimes the world may be cruel and people might not understand you. But they don’t know you the way I do. You are more than autism, you are you. So even when you feel like you aren’t winning, we are. For every little accomplishment, brings joy to my heart. Every time you learn a new skill, my hope is restored. Each day I see each of you; I know my purpose. So when life gets too scary or you start to feel like you can’t do it anymore, know mommy is here. The fight is far from over.

Dedicated to my 3 children on the autism spectrum #TEAMWALKER

Unpredictable Love

Love is so mysterious, yet unpredictable. We never know who we will fall in love with; or when someone will touch our hearts. Sometimes love has other plans for us and it chooses for us; because we just can’t help who we love. The heart just knows what it wants; even if we can’t find the words to explain it.

Love is Complex

Our hearts have the capacity to love anyone we want to love. Yet it doesn’t mean we can or will love everyone the same or equally. As love is a complex emotion that can either be spiritual, mental or physical; and/or all the above. For when it comes to love, it isn’t always easy to attach words to such a powerful feeling. As love, cannot always be described using spoken words.

Sometimes actions are the only way we can tell someone we love them; when we can’t find the right words to say “I love you”. As there is no single way to describe the way in which we love one another. For there is not just one way to give and receive love. So, whether it be the unconditional bond between a mother and child; or a romantic relationship felt between husband and wife. When love is “in the air” or present; it speaks for itself; no matter how the message is conveyed. Love is love as long as its heartfelt.

4 Interesting Quotes by Langston Hughes

Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.

Life is for the living. Death is for the dead. Let music be life and death a note unsaid.

When a man starts out to build the world, he first starts with himself.

Like a welcome summer rain, humor may suddenly cleanse and cool the earth, air and you.

YOUNG MOMS AND AUTISM

According to recent studies, researchers have found the rate of autism is higher among teen moms. As opposed to mothers in their 20’s and 30’s. Yet genetics, only account for part of this reason. There are other factors that may play a role in the development of this neurological condition. Whether it be environmental factors in pregnancy or a lack of prenatal care; the exact cause of autism is unknown. There are so many contributing factors; it’s almost impossible to narrow it down to just one or two.

For one, autism wasn’t a “thing” moms talked about; up until recently. Not to mention the fact that many teen moms were first time moms. So, some young women might not even know they are pregnant at first; which delays prenatal care. I mean how can we care for ourselves, if we don’t know what it’s like to be pregnant? Therefore, the environment (the womb) the child is growing in; isn’t exactly fit for a life. Until the mom nurtures the fetus into a baby; through caring for herself and her body.

Two, when a child has no speech or communication issues; the autism often is considered high functioning. Like Asperger’s; meaning they “appear” to be just like any other “normal” kid. And indeed, they are; but on the inside, they are “dying” to understand who they are. Therefore, in these cases; a diagnosis isn’t even thought of. The child is usually labeled “bad” or “disruptive”. Or smart and gifted. So, everyone thinks, how can he have autism? Not to mention the fact that a teen mom, is more willingly to believe what doctors say. Because she is new to motherhood and doesn’t “know any better.”

Three, teen moms often are uneducated and unaware about womanhood and motherhood. Young teen women are still learning how to become grown womenat this age. So, this “transition”; can be quite tough. Yet teen moms don’t always receive the education and support; when they need it the most. Many young moms aren’t aware about autism or any other conditions. They are still processing the fact, that they must share their body with another human being. While having to face scrutiny for having a baby at such a young age. Which can cause stress, anxiety and depression in pregnancy. Creating an unhealthy internal environment for mother and child. Causing or predisposing the child’s brain to autism.

What many people don’t realize is that; autism “has no face.” so we never know who is living with autism; diagnosed and undiagnosed. As autism affects many children; regardless of race, gender, location or economic status. Thus, there are many factors when it to comes to if a child will be born or grow up to have autism.

But regardless, we should always listen to our inner voice or gut feeling. For as a mother always knows what’s best for her child. As in the end; a doctor can never compete with a mother’s intuition. That gut feeling will never steer us wrong; no matter how young or old we are as moms. Whether we are the biological mom or adoptive mom; a mother is a mother. We always know what’s best.

Nothing is “Black and White” in Relationships

When it comes to relationships, nothing is “black and white”; meaning nothing is as it seems. What others may believe or think they know; they don’t. Or what they think they understand about one’s relationship; they don’t. Men and women are different when it comes to relationships and there are always reasons for every action. Its just not seen to the naked eye or cannot always be explained in words. Sometimes we judge what we know, but dont question what we dont know.

So when we think we know what a man and woman are going through in relationship; think twice. Nothing is “black and white” in a relationship; for we are all different. We all have different ideas of the “perfect” relationship and what one person can “put up with it”; another cannot withstand. Everything happens for a reason, even relationships. Where no relationship is perfect or ideal; sometimes we just go with the flow. Hoping for the best outcome, regardless of what others may think they know, think they see or think they understand. For no relationship is “black and white”; we just do what we feel is best at any given moment in time.

So we should never judge what we don’t know or can’t even begin to comprehend. As we are all unique and so will every relationship. Thus we gotta respect a relationship for what it is or keep it moving; keeping our; “noses” where they belong. For no relationship is “black and white”; there’s always a “gray area”.

5 Inspirational Quotes by Maya Angelou

You may encounter many defeats but don’t be defeated.

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.

Success is liking yourself, liking what you doing and liking how you do it.

If you are always trying to be normal, you don’t know how amazing you can be.

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.